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Lets restore discipline in our South African schools

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Created on: 28th February 2016
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The is choas this days in our South African schools school kids not respecting teachers
abusing teachers emotionaly because they have rights, we see on the news kids fighting
their teachers and swearing at teachers, i asked my self this question how are we
going to restore discipline in our schools and society because kids have rights
and teachers are not given ways to discipline kids and some of this kids are from
families were they are raised by grandmothers because the mother is not home he went
off with a boy friend some from abusive family so they end up taking out that anger
on their teachers or school mates. South Africa we need a solution i came up with this
idea i learned during my training in America for workinfg with troubled kids or difficult
youth in.

-Personal power tools for working with difficult kids
You have many personal resources which you bring to your
work with children and to which you perhaps have not given a
greta deal of attention. These resources are your personal power
tools. Before you consider strategies for working with difficult
children, give some attention to these tools.
Like any tools, if they are to be useful, they must be cared for and used
correctly. Taking care of your power tools will not only increase your success
in your work, but will also make it a greta deal more enjoyable.

-Personal power tool 1:
Individual energy supply
Nothing is more important to your work with difficult kids than your
personal energy supply. No doubt you have noticed how much more
difficult these children can be on the days when you are tired or feeling
drained or down. Somehow they have a intuitive sense of knowing when you feel depleted
and often react by acting out more than usual.
To respond effectively to the high energy levels of these children, it is
essential that you become aware of your personal energy supply and make
a commitment to protect yourself from feeling depleted. Everyone has days
when he or she feels more energized than others, but it is important for you to begin
to think of your energy supply as your most valuable resource. Later in the book you will
find more on how to protect your energy supply and how to re-energize when you are tired.

-Personal Power tool 2;
Attitute
Nothing is as important to personal energy as a positive attitude. by
the same token, nothing is so energy draining as a negetive attitude.
Yet maintaining a positive attitude can be extremely challenging because
you are often faced with situations and challenges beyond your control to
change. You find yourself thinking, if only i could..." knowing full well you
Your attitude can become a vital personla power tool when you recognize that
it is the one thing over which you do have control. Recognizing your freedom
to choose your response to any challenge or difficulty enables you to focus
on the power you have rather than the power you do not have. It is the
 recognition of this power that has enabled prisoners of war and victims of all
forms of tragedy and trauma to triumph over enous adversity. You can choose your
attitude.
No one and nothing can control it but you. Beware of energy draining negative
Let your attitude work for you. It is a powwer tool

-Personal power tool 3:
Body Language
Body language can be an expression of attitute. It can say" Leave me alone"
"I'm angry" "I'm scared" or "i'm in charge" - all without a spoken word.
Became aware of your body language any time you are dealing with a difficult child
Make certain it does not attempt to intimidate(leanin over a seated child), threaten
(pointing fingers) or disparage (sneering facial expressions) Body language is a
 power tool when it expresses confidence (squared shoulders, weight evenly distributed
on each foot), openness (arms loose and hands at your sides) and authority
 ( serious facial expression, not smilling, but not angry or threatening).
 Body language is ever present.
Make it work for you.

-Personal Power tool 4:
Voice
Have you noticed whta your voice does when you are in the midst of a
frustration episode with a difficult child? Does it go up? If it does you
are in danger of sending a message that says "I'm out of control" or "I'm
losing it". or worse yet, "I dont know what to do with you" Difficult children
need to know you are in charge and know what you are doing.
Try lowering your voice the next time you feel like yelling. A firm, low voice
lets kids know you mena business and you are in control of the situation.
I t lets them know that you, not them are in charge. The tone of your voice,
as well as the volume at which you speak, send an important message.
Be certain it is the message you intend to send.

-Principles for working with difficult kids
Before discussing specific strategies for working with difficult kids,
consider the following fundamental principles which will help you remain calm,
 effective and energized
-Principle 1
Choose a response, prevent a reaction.
A strategy, by definition, is a chosen response. Planning an effective
response before difficult behavior occurs will prevent an ineffective reaction
Being well prepared with a repertoire of effective behavior management
strategies will help you avoid anger, frustration or discouragement.
Anger , frustration and discourangement are energy draining. It is also energy
draining when nothing you try with a child seems to work. Effective strategies
 conserve energy and enourage positive behavior.

-Principle 2
You cannot force a child tom behave
difficult children are immune to attempts to force them into compliant behaviour.
They are impervious to punishment and are often keenly
aware of the limitations of your power to make them do anything they do not want to do
An effective response must, therefore, focus the child's attention on the choices he or
she is making and the consequences of those choices. This is not always as simple as it sound

Principle 3
If the strategy you choose doe not teach a skill it will not be affective
Most difficult children are extremely limited in the skills neede to make good choices for
 themselves. Therefore if your response to their behaviour is not designed to teach a skill,
 it will not be effective. atahe fundamental meaning of discipline is teaching. Make sure your
 strategies oriented to instruction

-Priciples 4
Tell them what you want them to do, not just what ou do not want them to do
Positive behaviour is necessary to accomplish the goals of a teaching enviroment or to maintain
safety and order in a childrencare enviroment. children need to be told both the what and why of the
behavious standards you expect. Make certain that your standards of behaviours are explicity. Explain and
discuss exactly what kind of behaviour you expect and why it is important for everyone to cooperate with
these standards

Priciple 5
If the behaviours is unacceptable in the workplace, make it unacceptable in the classroom
Teachers and childcare workers must prepare children for the day when they will have to make a living
for themselves. Making a aliving requires more than a good education or technical skill. it requires more
more than a good education or technical skill. It requires the ability to behave properly in the workplace
 and to get along with employers and others workers. Children need to be taught the self-control and
interpersonal communication standards that are expected in the workplace

Priciple 6
If you want respect, be respectful
The only way to elicit respectful behaviour from chronically difficult kids is to model respectful behaviour.
 You cannot use a tone of voice, words or gestures you do not want directed towards you. Their world is vastly
different from ours: it will never again be like it was when an adults word was law, and adults commanded respect
because they were adults. Now you must both teach and model the behaviour wanted from children, If you want children
to treat you respectfully, treat them respectfully

Guideline 9
Affirm their strenght

One of the most powerful skills you can develop when working with difficult kids, is the ability to identify and affirm
their strenghs.Kids who are aatention seeking, love it when you give them a chance to be leaders, but they have to be
 taught how to use their talets positivly

By doing this and applying this skills we are avoiding what we see on the news Universities are being burned down
 if you look into the history, of people terrorising the Universities its same people who use to disrepects teachers
at school and abuse teachers mentaly thats why when they get
Universities they get worse and become danger to others.

 We understand some of this troubled kids at schools and Universities they have history of abuse at their homes or they were
raised by grandmothers and this experiance affected them pychological problems they need help, couseling and a program to
restore them lets unite in prayer and use skills we have to work with difficult kids or students.  

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